Basically, there is no negative connotation in this process, no good or evil, and above all, no guilt – things are just how they are!

The more you know about your family, the more helpful it is in identifying the relevant topics.

What is important?

  • All the war experiences of our parents and grandparents (injuries, captivity, displacement, flight, rape, bombings, losses, etc.)
  • People who lost children at any age (miscarriages, abortions, child mortality, illnesses, etc.)
  • Illnesses (at which age were these identified, how did this affect their quality of life?)
  • How old were your ancestors and how did they die?
  • If any accidents have occurred, at what age did these accidents happen?
  • Was anyone affected by expropriation, bankruptcy, debts or a gambling addition?
  • Were addictions (of any form) an issue?
  • Which family members were self-employed, employed by others, who was a laborer?
  • Who had a higher level of education?
  • Were there any conflicts within the family or with other families?
  • Were there any religious affiliation or sect affiliations?
  • Who was deceived or who cheated on a partner?
  • Was anyone ever expelled from the family or has a family member ever turned his/her back on the family?
  • Are there any love relationships that should not have been allowed?
  • Are there any secrets or things that were not supposed to be talked about?
  • Was there any abuse/violence?
  • Which catastrophes befell the family?
  • Have you ever received blood transfusions?
  • Did you have a transplant?

Every little detail is relevant!



  1. Creating a genogram:
  2. Collecting and filling in information about your clan
  3. Finding patterns
  4. Analysis and discussion

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